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Is It Worth the Pain?



With all that has been happening I think I have to give out my thoughts to the universe. Seeing the younger people experience what I have gone through in the past (feeling lolah?), I can't help but reminisce the past.

For every heart ache in my life, I remember aching legs from long walks, forced breaths because of smoking, and reeling dizziness because of drunkenness. Yup, the same process; I was surprised to learn that this tendency is universal.

I am a veteran of the Lonely Hearts club... been there, been that. But of course for every person that you care about, the experience and coping mechanism is as different as my left handprint to my right handprint.

Asking questions like, "If we're going to turn back time and knowing that in the future it's going to hurt like hell, will you still go through the "friendship"? (I only learned now that there's really a semantics problem in every relationship, hmmm... interesting)

Amidst clouds of smoke and empty bottles of beer, you will immediately answer, "NOooooooooooooo!" But deep inside, will you really disregard that part of your past to escape the pain in the now moment?

Even if it may sound cliche and mushy to the nth power, some old quotes that we learned from dusty English textbooks really ring true... there's really a reason why they stand the test of time. They are universal truths.

"It's better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all."
"Love is not love when alteration finds."

I don't know if these are true but of course there's also this quote,
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
That's why I am a firm believer in second chances but more than that, you don't exist in my universe anymore.

I also learned that you can't give all love and attention to one person. We are all human, just divide that love into many pieces and give the largest piece to yourself and just try to love everybody. The hurt that you feel after you have loved someone is exponentially proportional. The more you love, the more you risk being hurt. If you can handle it, I am with you my friend. Just do what you think is right for you. "No guts, no glory!"

Also, if you're going to start a relationship be it a friendship or "special friendship" or MU... gosh... the terms are endless, know his/her history. You may do good to him/her. You will go out of your way to accommdate his/her needs. But if that person is going out of a bad relationship, or on a rebound. Run!

You may be a pawn in his/her purpose to get revenge to the one that has hurt him/her or for want of a better term you may be a mirror of the past that he/she will dash and destroy to rebuild a broken ego. Animals who are hurt cannot be controlled or reasoned with. Men and women (sometimes) can be fragile, weak, and insensitive.




"All we need is love!" But Yoda is right, extreme emotions can lead to the dark side.

"Fear leads to anger.
Anger leads to hate.
Hate leads to suffering."

But of course, love can lead to fear. Fear of losing the one you love.

Are you ready to get to know your dark side? But you need to know that half of you, because it's a part of who you are.

Just hate for now, who knows, you might find the path to forgiveness, but never forget... never ever forget past wrongs. Forgive but not forget.